A friend is someone
who leaves you with all your freedom intact,
but who, by what he thinks of you,
obliges you to be fully what you are.
~ J. L’Heureux
Legitimate confidence that we’re taking the healthiest action we can, moment by moment, regardless of the situation––welcome or gruesome. How do we develop such confidence? What understanding and skills must we cultivate? If you’re a person who leads, everyone you serve looks to you, not necessarily for THE answer, but certainly for your answer.
Consider the world in which your answer lives. From the air we breathe to every form of relationship with our fellows, we are called with increasing urgency to pay attention to the choices we make, why we make them, and the impact of those choices on ourselves and others. The eternal question “What’s it going to be, love or fear?” only deepens in relevance.
I help those who find this call a gift. Or want to.
The healthiest individuals and organizations enjoy an expanding sense of how to respond well to literally anything.
They are adept at growing resilience, an activity rooted in a clear definition of health and the practices essential to cultivate it. What distinguishes my service to the human family (besides my sense that the spirit of the universe is playful, loving and deep) is developing tools that serve this end, and helping those who lead put those tools to work.
How do you think about:
- Who you and your company are committed to being or die trying––and how that plays out decision by decision?
- Seeing the world from both the end of your nose and Pluto simultaneously?
- Vision, positioning, branding, communication––“the last legal ways to have an unfair advantage over your competition”?
This website, CoolMindWarmHeart.com, provides a pretty substantial introduction to me and my work in the world.
I serve a certain kind of CEO or mature professional:
men and women who appreciate that, while they may wear the hat of leader, what they’re really about is leadership: an action requiring we pay attention to what matters most: the self-understanding necessary to offer those we serve a perspective that is profoundly useful and unswervingly positive.
I gratefully make space for a small number of distinct relationships that provide the right individuals wisdom and skill to identify and address things that are essential to their well-being and the well-being of their institution. I use the term “essential” deliberately in its meaning of that which one cannot do without.
I may be especially helpful during times of significant transition or adversity when acting in harmony with who one is committed to being, and the stated vision of one’s organization, is put to the test. How to respond well upon learning that colleagues have been the object of sexual harassment is a real-life example.
Someone looking to benefit from having a strong voice in the world, but who hasn’t necessarily writing skills equal to their insights, may find me a valuable coach and colleague. How well I think, and write, one can easily determine from my website.
In a nutshell, regardless of the situation, I help leaders
- put their finger on what will serve them and their institutions most if addressed well;
- manage their two primary responsibilities: defining reality and being a role model of healthy action;
- test their perspective against a view that sees everything as a gift to help us make healthy choices;
- communicate like a freight train driven by the Dalai Lama.